Reach: The Courage to Pursue a Bigger Life
As I write to you, I am still trying to wrap my mind around the fact that we are just a few weeks away from ending the first quarter of 2022. I am sure that you are aware of the fact that time is moving. However, it is not enough to be aware of the fact that time is moving. You must ask yourself the important question: what am I doing with the gift of time? Most people came into 2022 with a lot of excitement and adrenaline. However, by now most people have reverted back to life as usual. This year does not have to look like every other year in your life. 2022 can be the year that you experience breakthroughs and radical change. Personally, I am in the middle of a major life makeover. I am learning so much about myself and so much about this wonderful gift called life. I want to share with you some insights to empower you to break cycles of mediocrity and dare to pursue a bigger life in 2022 and beyond!
You have to stop living your life defined by barriers. As a trailblazer, I know the cost of breaking new ground and conquering new frontiers. When I started my business more than a decade ago, I had so many people telling me that it would never work and that I was going to fail. I will not lie to you and tell you that it was easy to hear all of that. At the same time, I knew that I had to push through the noise if I wanted to live the life of my dreams. One of the things that helped me during that time was realizing that barriers were meant to be broken. In other words, many times we accept the status quo and we adopt the same low standards that others live by. At some point, I was fed up and I made the decision that I was not going to live another day of my life defined by barriers. I was met with hostile opposition, criticism, and judgment but I refused to let it stop me. I dared to break through the barrier and establish new standards in my industry and field. While many were skeptical in the beginning, I soon became a respected thought leader and a key influencer in my space. Barriers are nothing more than illusions that want to rob you of the infinite possibilities of what your life can be. Anytime you are confronted with a barrier I want you to decide to challenge the barrier and dare to be a ceiling breaker. As you break barriers, you will challenge others to eliminate excuses, move beyond fear and raise the bar on their potential. No barrier can persist in your life without your permission.
You have to stop living blind to the possibilities of what your life can be. As I stated earlier when I was building my business and establishing my brand it was a very uncertain time. In fact, it was a time when everyone was getting into coaching and I struggled to find the value of what I had to offer. Many of you know that my business almost collapsed three times and I went through a lot of adversity before I achieved success. When I spoke with one of my mentors, it became very clear to me that I was not going to distinguish myself by duplicating what everyone else was doing. So I decided to hone back in on my difference. After all, that is the reason that I started the business in the first place. As I honed in on my difference and refined my message, doors started to open, media attention grew and I started to build a reputation for excellence. What changed? I stopped living my life bound by possibility blindness. What is possibility blindness? It is in the ability to see beyond the context of your circumstances and contradictions. It is the mental chatter that stands in the way of us manifesting change and realizing our dreams. Possibility blindness tells you that the circumstances surrounding your life are unique and unchangeable. However, possibility thinking empowers you to realize that your circumstances are not unique and everything is subject to change. Do not allow possibility blindness to paralyze you and bankrupt your potential.
You must address your belief system. As a highly respected thought leader, you had to know that I was going to address your thinking at some point. While it is great to identify barriers and to address possibility blindness, it is more important to take the time to address your belief system. Essentially, your belief system is your thought pattern and process. This shapes your core values and principles and ultimately guides your decision-making. I've heard people say that I just make decisions instantly. I always smile and laugh because they do not understand that every decision you make is based on a framework and a set of guiding principles and standards. You may feel like you are just making spontaneous decisions; however, no decision that we make is spontaneous. Every decision can be traced back to a thought pattern or process. We all desire to see change in our lives. On the other hand, not many people understand that until you address your belief system you cannot interrupt patterns or break cycles in your life. Addressing your belief system will cause you to have to challenge assertions and assumptions. In other words, you should take the time to explore what you think and evaluate why you think that way. If you do not get to the root of a thought pattern or process in your life, you will continue to live on repeat and live controlled by an unrenewed mind. The momentum of your life will be the product of taking the time to work on your mental game. It is impossible to neglect the mind and transform your life.
You must have the audacity to be brave. As I shared with you in the opening, I am in the middle of a major life makeover at the moment. This transformation has been challenging, costly, and uncomfortable. However, what I am learning about myself and the growth that is happening in my life is priceless. I've discovered that on the other side of bravery is a breakthrough. The very things that we fear are the things that hold the key to our freedom and propel our lives forward. This year make the quality decision that you are going to stop living restrained and restricted by fear. If you do not master fear you will never manifest your future. We all like playing it safe but in safety, I have discovered that we are often settling for a second-class version of our lives. You were not created to play it safe. You were created for significance. You will never be fulfilled living in the prison of fear. Make 2022 the year that you break out of the cage of fear and collide with your prophetic future. A bigger life begins with the audacity to be brave. What are you afraid of? What do you need to conquer so that change can happen in your life this year? Anything that you are avoiding you are accepting. Most importantly, avoidance produces an average life.