- Jamelle Sanders
Breakthrough: How to Get Out of Your Own Way
Well, here we are just a few weeks away from ending the first quarter of 2023. Can you believe how fast time has gone? The first quarter has been amazing for me. I have made some huge progress on my goals, acted on my priorities, and executed my vision consistently. However, I will say that I have also been met with great resistance and opposition. In particular, this week has been my most challenging week of 2023 so far. While I was tempted to get frustrated, I had to reset and refocus on what is most important. As I have trained and developed leaders around the world, I had to practice what I preach and get out of my own way. I hope these insights will empower you to get back up, try again, and propel breakthroughs in your world!
Stop sharing your dreams with everyone. In a perfect world, we can share our dreams with anyone and we would receive unconditional love and support. Unfortunately, we live in the real world and not everyone will agree with your goals or support your dreams. What will you do when you hit a place in your life where it seems like your dreams are not being supported? Most people will say that they will just keep going. However, from years of experience, I can tell you that it is not that easy. Unless your vision has become solidified in you, then contradictions and critics will have the ability to create doubt around your vision. In those moments, you have to decide if you are going to allow the doubters and critics to define and cripple you. Or if you are going to allow courage and conviction to empower you even in the midst of resistance. Stop sharing your dreams with everyone. You cannot expect everyone to support you and believe in you when God gave the vision to you. You cannot afford to allow the voices of contradictions to make you forfeit your destiny. Protect your dream in its infancy so that it can reach its full maturity. Recklessness will ultimately result in the abortion of your dreams.
Refuse to become bitter with those that do not believe in your dreams. If you are anything like me, then you have probably spent a lot of time supporting other people and helping them make their dreams a reality. However, when it comes down to your own dreams you often realize that the support is lacking. If you are not careful, you will allow the lack of support and belief in you to make you bitter. Instead of allowing bitterness to contaminate my heart, I have decided to make a conscious decision to believe in myself. I have had to realize that I am worthy of the life of my dreams. More importantly, I am worthy of the same love and support that I show to others. You must understand that not everyone will be able to take the journey to greatness with you. Some people will come into your life for a season. Other people come into your life with motives. On the other hand, there are those that come into your life that have been destined to be part of your life. Make sure that you do not invest more time and energy in critics than you do with genuine friends. You do not need everyone to believe in you. All you need is the right people to believe in you. Personally, this started with making the decision to first believe in me.
Watch your self-talk. Honestly, this is often easier said than done. As someone that has spent decades doing lots of mental work, this is something that you will have to continually address in your life. This week I found myself entertaining inner dialogue that was not congruent with the results or the reality that I wanted to create for myself. How did this happen? I allowed the words of others to become louder than my own voice. In other words, I allowed opinions to obscure my vision and oppose my progress. So I had to get back to the basics. I had to start affirming my worth and value. Then I had to start reinforcing my authentic identity. After that, I started to speak to my power and potential. As I continued to change my words, I could literally feel the climate of my world changing. Your self-talk is dictating the seasons of your life. Destructive words will never produce an overcoming life. I want you to pay attention to the things that you are saying about yourself. While those words may never exit your mouth, you are allowing them to enter your mind and they are engineering the moments of your life. Make sure that you speak to yourself with the same love and care that you speak to others. Use your words to build your life and not to bankrupt your life. Your confessions are shaping your cycles.
You must develop a bulletproof mindset. If you have followed my work for any length of time, then you know that I believe in the unlimited power of the mind. In fact, it was my decision to shift my thinking that ultimately transformed my life. If you want to get out of your own way, then you must understand that you must first win in the arena of thought. You are where you are today because of the thoughts that you thought yesterday. More importantly, your tomorrow is being shaped by the thoughts you think today. If your thoughts have brought you here, then it behooves you to be very intentional about what you allow to grow in the garden of your mind. Are you allowing thoughts of doubt, unbelief, fear, insignificance, or rejection to grow in the garden of your mind? If so, then I can guarantee that your moments are filled with doubt, unbelief, fear, etc. Your reality is always a reflection of what you are allowing to take up residence in your mind. When I find myself becoming emotionally unstable and spiritually unbalanced, I start to examine my thoughts. In particular, I start to take each thought one at a time and examine that thought in light of the intentions that I have set for my life. If the thought is incongruent with the life that I am endeavoring to create, then I have to begin to uproot that thought and plant the right thought into the garden of my mind. As you do this, you begin to develop a bulletproof mindset. This is a mindset that empowers you to be unshakable in uncertain times. A bulletproof mindset is a mindset that supports your growth, development, and evolution. Most of all, a bulletproof mindset is a mindset that does not deteriorate and cannot be destroyed. A bulletproof mindset is a mindset that is impenetrable to impossibilities.